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Published November 21, 2021 in

Rach Underhill on grief following her wife’s illness and death

Episode 76

I’m so grateful to Rach Underhill for this really tender and beautiful episode.

It’s coming up to two years since Rach’s beloved wife Kris died from terminal cancer. Rach takes us through the love story, to Kris’ diagnosis and eventual death.

The love and grief that Rach experienced from firstly meeting Kris, then losing Kris, are palpable. I think it’s perhaps the depth of love and the depth of grief that make Rach’s message of hope and choosing life after loss, all the more inspiring.

There is a lot of wisdom for all of us here in this chat, delivered with tenderness and humour. We also talk about sex after loss, and having a second chance at love. I’m delighted that Rach has stepped forward to represent the lgbtq+ community on the Shapes Of Grief podcast.

If you would like to join a LGBTQ+ specific bereavement group, contact the #goodgrieftrust at and they’ll put you in touch with the group organisers, Rach and Pat.

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